Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Commentary on the Conference - by Yazir Henri, Director of the DACPM

Since Working for Peace: Black Men Transforming Identities and Memories of Violence took place, we at the DACPM have had time to reflect on what happened and what was achieved there. Currently we are working on a conference following up! This intensive engagement on this complex issue of historical and structural violence impacting poor community’s men, women and children has to be spoken about and transformed – as we agreed at the conference, it is all our responsibility to ensure it is not just another talk shop. Not just another feel good walk in the park! Below is some of what we see as crucial outcomes of the conference, and we would greatly appreciate any additional input from those who were present and others reading this who were not. Let’s not fear talking hard with care.

Central among the conference’s achievements was that it broke from old ways of talking about violence in South Africa. It created a space for those affected by the violence and working with violence to speak directly to themselves. We claimed our positions as concerned activists, intellectuals and experts and physically changed the dead space so usual for conferences and workshops where “experts” studying our work, experience and lives generally talk at those they consider either being the problem or not really having enough experience to deal with the problem. Oftentimes such ‘experts’ talk with an active blind spot to their own subjectivity and complicity in the violence being spoken about.

This is not helpful for finding better solutions to manage the endemic violence engulfing communities born out of violence, now almost stuck in violence that is structural, political, economic, psychological and historical – with devastating gender consequences for women and children. Together we were bold enough to question, expose and offer alternative practices to the mainstream stereotypes underlying current social discourses addressing the question of masculinities. In our gathering, even when we were silent - just sitting together, convening in Central Cape Town coming from several major cities in South Africa - we lived for two days the fact that the question of addressing male identity and its relationship to violence is much more complex than is seen in the narrow social and mainstream media approaches which have at its base a fundamentalist assumption: putting poor black men in the subject location of simply the perpetrators of the most atrocious forms of the violence.

This totalizing approach essentializes the colour black and the associated gendered experience of black men not only to violence, but also to their relationship to white men and white women in South Africa. It disregards the social violence perpetrated against particularly black men still trapped in present-day poverty… A legacy which is made even more complicated in a society still dominated socially, economically and psychologically by white South Africans in general and white South African men in particular.

It was stated clearly at the conference: ‘violence in South Africa in all its forms is also a systematic, societal problem’ with structural, historical and socio-economic administrative antecedents which were directly and violently related to legalised systems of mass oppression, without negating the fact of individual implication, complicity and responsibility of those living its full negative impact. The legacy of the dehumanizing, violent and criminal systems of Slavery, Colonialism, and Apartheid impacts seriously our ability as human rights activists, professionals and intellectuals regardless of our colour, class, gender or sexual persuasion to manage successfully the violent consequences of previously sanctioned white systems of administrative violence and injustice against the black body.

It is not coincidental that these Apartheid beneficiary and settler groups at the core of these historical systems of violence remain largely unaccountable as the violence rages on. It is, however, too easy given our everyday reality to point fingers at any one group for this problem. To simply call the violence crime without recognizing that it is much more hides where the responsibility for the systemic structure of the same violence lay. It is important that this is discussed, debated and these learning’s integrated into our resistance against the violence along with its multiple sources. An important part of this resistance would be also to hold those who benefit from these violent systems in South Africa accountable for their role in the ongoing violence that faces us all daily. For an example, white South African men whose identity in particular remains stuck inside of a colonial and Apartheid social experiences cannot be let off the hook so easily. Whilst addressing this issue we must in the same process also honour the experience and efforts of those individuals and organisations resisting this violence in their everyday - in the past, in the present and in the future.

Violence in South Africa is also a gendered issue- not just a gender issue. Everyone in this society must take responsibility if this scourge is to be defeated; men and women, blacks and whites, and every other category of human that exists. Widespread cycles of violence cannot simply be blamed on one group of people or on one category of gender. The broader socio-historical context must be taken into consideration and when this is done carefully it becomes apparent that we are all in some way responsible. Therefore, it is the responsibility of all of us who live inside of this society to act to transform this burning state of affairs.

There are many routes and steps towards such a transformation. A crucial first step is to reach a common awareness and recognition about what the problem consists of, where its historical roots lie, what drives it to continue today, and what kind of change or transformation is desired. The conference acted as such a first step by gathering dedicated activists, intellectuals, and community leaders from many sectors of society and areas of South Africa to explore these issues and to work to change it. The event was very successful in this regard, and it is hoped that we as individuals have returned to our respective communities and areas of work to spread the ideas and strategies that were discussed amongst ourselves at the conference.

We cannot expect white South Africans who perpetrated this violence against the South African people -men, women and children of all shades to end the ongoing cycles of violence. We must take responsibility and end it ourselves! This is not a time for simple finger pointing and we should resist easily casting blame, lamenting our own victim hood whilst not acting to provide solutions. Let us pave the way for building a safer South Africa together! Let us build the respect, dignity and humanity that we have fought slavery, colonialism and Apartheid for - in ourselves so that we may live it together with our children, women, men and communities.

This is our position and not necessarily the opinion of everyone at the conference. Please do not hesitate to comment, question, disagree.

2 comments:

Elli said...
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Elli said...

I found this conference to be extremely enlightening and relevant on several levels, and am truly grateful I was able to attend. Many speakers brilliantly brought to light how historic, socio-economic, racial domination and structural violence against ‘black’ men are major underlying contributors to the current cycles of violence that communities in South Africa face. While it may ultimately be the responsibility of ‘black’ men themselves to step out of this violence, we all have important roles to play in working for peace.

As a ‘white’ woman, I struggled at the conference to figure out where my place is in these violent systems and what responsibilities do I have in the effort to end them. At one of the feedback reports, I asked how women can act as allies in this process, and got several interesting responses. One woman offered her thoughts (as I remember them) on how it is necessary to love a person or group of people in order to act as an ally to him or them. She explained that she used to hold a lot of hatred for men, but it did it did little good for her own well-being, the men she was in contact with, or the larger struggle for equality. Once she was able to accept men from a deeper place in her heart and overcome her anger towards them, was she better able to heal from her hurt underlying the anger, and act as an effective ally towards men to transform harmful behaviors.

I also offered the perspective that being an ally means mentally separating the person from the pattern that he is stuck in, remembering that the person is good, and that the pattern is only the ugly residue of what has been done to him. By communicating that notion clearly towards men – that we deeply care about them as individuals but will not stand for oppressive behaviors that they practice -- then we can better assist them to end these patterns and regain who they really are. We must be able to hold a strong ground of ending the destructive patterns, whilst not blaming or victimizing the person. Blaming and victimizing only pushes individuals into a deeper hole of defeat and powerlessness, which are feelings that often spur and perpetuate cycles of violence. However, acceptance and respect for a person can help him separate a pattern from himself in his own mind, and eventually in practice as well.

Beyond this, I think it's important that women openly reject notions and acts of violent masculinities wherever they occur. This may mean explicitly challenging messages, through our words and/or actions, about how "real men" should be (especially where those messages pertain to violence and domination). Additionally, as mothers and caretakers, we can raise young men to value who they are as humans first, rather than the rigid roles that mainstream society pressures them into playing, and treat them with the care and respect that we would like them show to others. We may also provide emotional and practical support for men to break out of these cycles themselves. Finally, it's crucial that we strive for partnership and equality, rather than competition and domination in all our relationships with men. This will model how our interactions could be in the absence of violent oppression, as well as ensures that we are fighting together, rather than against each other in the struggle for peace.

I think it is crucial that we are all involved – men and women, ‘black’ and white,’ – in the work of the violence that is so damaging to our lives, communities and futures. These cycles are not the fault of any particular individual or set of people, but larger systems that we live inside of and therefore we must all act to find and implement the solutions it will take to end them!

In peace,
Elli Simon